There is one mistake that so many men make when first approaching a woman. It is the one thing that will immediately turn a woman off and make it almost impossible for you to get to know her better. It is called negativity. It is what can make the difference between a woman getting up and walking away for staying to chat with you.
It can happen without you even realizing it. You are talking to her and everything goes well and then suddenly you notice a distinct disinterest from her. What you may not have realized is that you have turned on a negative vibe that she picked up on. It could be a negative comment that you said about someone, or it could be a negative comment that you said about yourself. You may not have meat to say anything negative at all, but when it happens you can almost always see it on her face immediately.
When making a comment about someone or a judgment that shows your negativity it tends to make women shy away. They are very aware of what it means to be judged themselves and they tend to look at a negative person in a different light then they may have even minutes before. Even if you only are judging someone's style of dress or hairstyle, if you do so within the first meeting with a woman they will most likely find you immature and impolite. It could just make her uncomfortable around you, feeling as if any minute she could be judged.
The way to stop it is simple. Since it is in your head, instead of speaking it, simply disregard it. If you are in a foul mood then do something to put you in a happier mood. Most of all, refrain from saying anything negative that will make her feel awkward or uneasy with you. It helps to become aware of what you say that may be construed as a negative statement and try to consciously try to change it so that you come off as a positive and non-judgmental person. That way you will impress the woman and get to know her even better.
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